It’s hard work bringing together a vision that God has given you. Sometimes you wish you had more time, more help, more dedication etc. But I know that my beloved is with me and sends me everyone I need and gives me the time I need. Creative people always have the bushes to hack through, we are breaking through a new path that no one has been.
Watch your gaze
Celebrating the ultimate Love
Hey everyone! It’s been a awhile but I am in some amazing transition in life. I just have a quick word to share from the love in my heart. Someone somewhere needs to hear this.
First, I want to say, I think this it is amazing and a blessing that people will get to share the love they have with their earthly lovers this weekend. I pray it’s a fulfilling weekend that brings husbands and wives closer and some dating couples into engagements leading to Kingdom covenant.
However, let's be real. Valentine's Day can get complicated fast. The reality is, some people will be happy with the chocolates, candy, flowers, sex, steak dinners and whatever, others will not. Don't be fooled by the Instagram posts. Some will feel unsatisfied, unappreciated, bored, and/or not truly SEEN by their lover. Well laid plans will turn into shattering arguments. An enticing gesture will be completely misunderstood and rejected.
Some people don’t have romantic love at all, and this weekend is another reminder that they are alone. Their hearts are pierced by this reality and they ask themselves “when will it be my turn?”
For the 1st time, in a VERY long time, I’m actually thankful, YES, thankful I fit into NEITHER category. So regardless of your relationship status, I want to share a few, quick thoughts, that I hope will shift your perspective a lot quicker than mines did. Maybe spare you a few years of unnecessary misery and discomfort.
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— For your love is better than wine. Because of the fragrance of your good ointments, Your name is ointment poured forth; Therefore the virgins love you.”
A song by UPPERROOM says Jesus...to you our hearts are open. Nothing here is hidden...You're our one desire. Only You Jesus...Your name is like oil poured out...Jesus
I have a Lover that loves me intensely. He is inside me and I in Him. His attraction to me is not for my pretty appearance, hair quality, or stature. He doesn’t love me more when I “do” the great commission. Or when I “go” on outreach or dance. He loves me, pursues me as I am. He notices things about me that my husband never will. I know from experience that when I act a fool He is still faithful and FULLY IN LOVE with me. No, Jesus/God ain’t your husband (that’s also earthly thinking and actually silly). HE IS BETTER THAN A HUSBAND.
He is a powerful King, messiah, just, consistent and beautiful. He will never truly disappointment me even when it seems like it. I can take comfort in knowing that everything He does for me, it is out of pure love. So even though V-day is a pagan celebration I can’t help but be extremely grateful, so grateful that my worth is solely defined by the excellence of this Perfect Being. He is love itself and wraps me in True Love everyday. 😭😭🥰🥰
This Feb 23rd is my 22nd spiritual birthday. I return to my 1st love. Tears run down my face to think I almost threw away this perfect love for an earthly love that wanes, sways, and is often plagued by lust. People confuse the desire to have sex with someone regularly as "love." But as soon as that person becomes undesirable for whatever reason...no more "love" all of sudden.
Seek the Author of Love itself. Don’t let social media, your favorite Christian couples, or satan distract you from this Truth: there is no Love like His Love. He will not reject you if you come humbly before Him and lay at His feet. Ask for the Holy Spirit. who like a Naomi or Eliezer, will help you find the Ultimate Companion. Only then can your earthly love has its rightful place.
The Process of The Secret Place
Jesus bled and died so that by his blood we might be reconciled to God. He tore the veil in the temple from top to bottom to give us access to the Throne here on earth. He had to ascend into heaven, to become our Cohen Gadol (High Priest), so that the Holy Spirit could come down and give us the Heart of God, or imputed righteousness. We are then lead into a process, a sort of spiritual "soaking", that transforms us, more and more, as we spend time in the presence of God. If you thought you said a prayer, got baptized and spoke in tongues a few times and that was it, you were wrong. Transformation into the image of Christ and wanting nothing more or less than the will of God takes time. It’s a process.
38 And the veil of the temple was rent in twain from the top to the bottom. Mark 15:38 (KJV)
If you think salvation was all avoiding hell when you die, your mistaken as to the reason Jesus came. So many times, in many churches, someone who is “saved” is taught many outward things they need to change in order to be “Christian”, “righteous”, or “holy”. By outward, I also mean behaviors like how to date or treat your spouse. What we don’t realize is, while that’s perfectly ok it’s also incomplete. Just as the Torah was incomplete without the Holy Spirit. The Spirit that allows divine transformation and renewal of the mind. The Spirit that gives us the Heart of God. We need the Heart of God because we have a job to do on earth and its not just win a bunch a souls so we can all huddle in a cave and wait for the rapture.
13 Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come. John 16:13 (KJV)
The process as I have experienced it
Your process WILL have parts that are different. I would not be so arrogant as to think I understand the mystery of intimacy with God (anyone who pretends they do, RUN). However, I want to get you excited about the process of the secret place! I want you to understand why Jesus always went away to pray at every possible moment He could. I look forward to time with God because I have glimpses into the WHY now more than ever.
I'm pretty sure this will be adjusted in the future but this 5 step process is what I have experienced:
Every revelation is not something to share or teach, sometimes it is just a whisper that revolutionizes your walk with God and your expression of the Kingdom here on Earth. I know there is more but that is the little bit I can explain.
This process repeats. It's an adventure into the deep.
“Then Jesus, moved with compassion, stretched out His hand and touched him, and said to him, “I am willing; be cleansed.””
Mark 1:41 NKJV
You can replace "cleansed" with whatever you need from Jesus today. Just believe in His compassion.
I think cleansing is a great word because, cleaning is a process. Sometimes we don't stay long enough, all the way to completion. Our enemy has devised many ways to discourage us. His aim is to make the strong weary. To beat you down into nothing. To make you forgot who your God is and who you are. Amazingly, if or when this happens our High Priest Jesus still has a plan. He actually uses this weakness to prune us and make us stronger. Yes, Jesus can use the destruction of our faith in Him to build something more like Him.
So you see, it's never over. It's never out of reach. It's never too late. It's never too much. Truly, we can never be defeated. A God that can use your failures to help you find true success is an amazing god indeed.
Jesus is so committed to our freedoms, peace, and fullness of LIFE. He doesn't let defeat win.
The mind of Christ
At some point we have to lay aside our ways for His ways. We have to care enough to find out His ways and allow His standard to change us. My premise being, once He sees that our hearts desire is to promote His Kingdom in all that we do, well, that is a gamechanger. I am His precious little girl, His ambassador, His ordained queen and priestess...whether I am cooking healthy food or taking dance classes of all kinds. I tell fellow believers, He is with me and inspires me in each of those pursuits...sometimes I get an awkward laugh, but sometimes I get further inquiry, which is the better response. You see, you can tell a lot about a person by how they respond to what it is they do not fully understand. As I stated in my teaching, we all have a tendency to fear what we do not understand. However, none of us, no matter how long you have been saved, fully comprehend the Kingdom of God and His purposes. So if we are not careful, we will unintentionally reject the very Kingdom we long to see here on earth.
Luke 6:47-48 (KJV)
Overcome your fear of the opinion of men
I've encountered a glimpse of Kingdom Culture, just a glimpse. Culture is about beliefs and values that shape human creativity and even intellect. We have to ask Jesus for help in understanding His culture. I know that what matters to the Father is what is in your heart. Jesus said "A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things." We need to have accountability and spiritual leaders in our life to guide us or this can be a slippery slope. However, if you heart is pure, I believe you will produce pure things, no matter your endeavor.
Ironically, many American Christians complain about the shows on TV or the latest Pop song, yet refuse to step in those arenas and bring the power of God. I'm not talking about partnering with Luciferian power holders, that's just stupid. I'm talking about relying on God for the resources and influence you need to make the impact you were born to make. This can come in the most unexpected ways, it just needs to promote the King and the Kingdom.
Please understand, this is more than a "chase your dreams" pep talk. I'm talking about overcoming the fear of the opinion of men, while also staying humble and teachable...no easy task.
Let me tell you a story to challenge you. I remember the night I was going out to celebrate with a friend for her birthday a few years ago. Before heading over to the nightclub, I went into my secret place and I prayed. I prayed for the people there, I prayed for my friends, I prayed with my spiritual language and with 100% confidence that when I walked in there, I brought the Kingdom of God with me. Oh. Yes. I. Did. You would have to understand my backstory but I didn't pray because I was afraid to go, I didn't feel anything about it other than the usual awareness that a lot of bad can happen, especially at those hours. However, that night was so much fun! Three different people came up to me and said "there is just something about you", one woman said "your joy makes me feel happy, you light up this place!" I promise you, I was sober!
For me, this was not about approval or disapproval of where I was, it was confirmation from Jesus to me: "Desiree, YOU ARE MINE. I am responsible for you, be mindful of the situations you put yourself in. Together, there is no atmosphere WE cannot shift, I AM the Resurrection, I AM the way, the truth, and the life, I have overcome this world, I am bigger than any demon in hell. As long as you are with ME 100%, I AM with you 100%." In that unusual situation, I received such an confirmation of my relationship with God and therefore, a greater awareness of the situations I put myself (and consequently Him) in. Isn't that so backwards and amazing at the same time? So many Christians see Him as just Judge, when He is so Pappa!!
I believe many believers focus so much on the right or wrong (or confuse taboo with sin) because they lack faith in the promise of resurrection, renewal, and transformation through the power of the Spirit. We also don't give each other the grace to go through our individual processes. Instead it's easier to judge one another...than believe that God could be so good. Yes I know, some people are playing games with the name of Jesus but I'm talking about those of us who are honestly trying to figure it all out. I've learned that instead of striving to be perfect or fit into everyone's definition of how I should be, I need to make sure of one thing: I am His and He is mine. In this space I don't have time to judge, or covet what others have, or feel forsaken at any moment. I'm just working out my own soul salvation AND living in this life more abundantly, free from powerless religiosity.
Only then do I believe we will see the manifestations of the Kingdom of God we have been desiring to see. We need each other. We each of a piece of the puzzle the other needs. We each have revelation so many need to hear if they are willing to listen. We can change our communities and our nation if we begin to see the things beyond what worked 50 years ago. Just because your grandma was at the same church for 200 years and prayed every Friday night at the church meeting that doesn't mean that is what God needs from you. We were made to conquer, Father God is waiting to promote us with more authority but first we have to
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In March of last year, my best friend and I, gave a teaching on Kingdom Culture. We discussed ethnic and cultural awareness but also the big picture of the Heart of God for His people when it comes to His Family.
I believe the Holy Spirit wants us to be aware that the Kingdom we are seeking, the one that is coming, and the one that's already here, may be foreign to us because of our own biases and preferences. Not only when it comes to ethnic diversity and integration but also in our values and morality.
You cannot allow where you grew up and/or your family preferences to dictate your understanding of morality, worship, and things like holidays or Christian traditions. Do they align with scripture? What is your understanding of Hebrew Culture and traditions? This will determine your understanding of scripture, which believe it or not originated in Ancient Israel. Moses, Jesus, nor Paul lived in modern day Israel or your local Methodist Church . Once you dive into it all, you will find the various pieces connect. Breaking away from man-made religion is the first step to grasping Kingdom truth.
As much as we try to "think outside the box" it's really hard for most Christians. Instead we make the box bigger, you know, be "radical" but at the end of the day, most Christians still operate out of a box of preconceived notions. Such as good Christians go to service unless ill or God is not pleased. Well...not exactly. At the end of 2018, for a season, I felt the call to step out of the traditional Sunday church routine. Jesus was calling me closer. That season was amazing, enlightening and liberating. For many years prior, I got to enjoy the routine of going before the Father on Sunday mornings, worshipping Him and hearing Rhema word. But I also experienced the routine of church that hinders and quenches the Spirit and therefore stifflies true salvation and transformation in the people of God. That's why you can have someone who looks the part of a Christian but has a pitiful love walk. Over the years, I have endured the "business" of church growth, the politics, and preaching, that was, at times, based more on denominational dogma, than actual unfiltered, Logos Word. The sort of preaching that drains you, instead of filling you up.
Jesus came to set us free
This is the time of year we celebrate the death, burial and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ. I prefer to remember also, why He came in the first place. He sacrificed Himself for more than my salvation from hell, He came to liberate me from man-made religion. Me, you, and everyone. When reflecting on this, I can't help but become saddened by the excess of man-made religious thought and exercise that is all around me. We have all been affected by it, rather we know it or not. I think the Almighty longs for the day when His people will choose truth, over tradition. Tradition includes denominational filters on morality, for example, one denomination says it is okay to drink alcohol and another condemns it. Both can't be correct. One view takes its cue more from tradition rather than what the bible actually says. Another big tradition of course, is racism. The basis of which is also not biblical, although many have tried to make it so. The most prevalent form of racism in the Church, is what I call "ethnocentric thought patterns" (your cultural expression is inherently better than others) which greatly plague relations between brothers and sisters in the body of Christ.
your culture vs. kingdom culture
Looking at the pictures above, which could you imagine in your church service? I believe God can use ballet and the many cultural dances of Africa. I believe we sell ourselves short when we only seek to please those of our own culture. This works both ways. Making fun of Riverdance (Irish stepdance) is not cute, nor acceptable. I also believe that God is waiting for those bold enough to put aside their fears and cross over, not only with open arms but an open mind. And let me say this too, what is considered "modest" in your culture may not be considered modest in another. It used to be that in Europe, a woman showing her ankles was considered sluttish. Well in many cultures of the world, showing a little midriff is not even a big deal, so just chill.
I've heard people call certain cultural expressions "pagan." Excuse me? Your European culture was pagan too and Orthodoxy doesn't get to decide what is on God's mind. If you follow a Pope, that's cool, you do you. I follow the Holy Spirit and I'm writing this because I believe that the Holy Spirit is going to challenge our way of thinking in ways we didn't know was possible. Church as usual is generally divided and segregated; if not racially, it is so economically or something else.
After this I beheld, and, lo, a great multitude, which no man could number, of all nations, and kindreds, and people, and tongues, stood before the throne, and before the Lamb, clothed with white robes, and palms in their hands;
There is so much talk about unity and diversity, yet for the past decade all I see is minor gaines. I believe this is because, especially in the south: you can have friends of other races but don't marry them because "the bible says 'be not equally yoked" Seriously? Are we not all One blood by Christ? Once filled with the Spirit are we not members of One Body? Should not our cultures all reflect the Love of Christ and His saving grace? So what is the problem?
The world says there is a black race and a white race. Which is mainly for social and political tactics and excludes billions of people. Truth is, we are all a magnificent spectrum of earthy tones found in nature. There are people with very little melanin in their skin who appear like pearls and other stones, ivory or the sands of the seas and most people of the earth have more melanin and appear like gold, precious stones, plants, spices, trees, honey, and on and on. Beautiful isn't it? Every shade of the human skin can be found in the ground of the earth where God formed us. Coincidence? No. We don’t know what Adam and Eve looked like but I imagine them carrying a bit of all of us between the two of them in a beautiful harmony our finite minds cannot fathom.
GAL 3:26-29 KJV
For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus. For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus. And if ye be Christ's, then are ye Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise.
The Father’s heart is for all of us to come into relationship with Christ and with each other. God has divine plans hidden in people all around the world and we cannot reach the epitome of Kingdom existence without the input of people who look different and/or speak a different language. It is likely that some promise you’ve been waiting on is wrapped in the very people that make you most uncomfortable.
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Identity then revelation of purpose
Have you ever felt like you needed to step away from something in order to see it more clearly?
The FAther is jealous for you
It had been building up for a long time. I have been seeking God in a deeper way in the last 2 years. The powder keg, so to speak, exploded after coming back from Carolina Revival on October 6, 2018. I don't know exactly what happened, why, or how. I just know there was an encounter with Yeshua that I desperately needed. I let go of somethings, but I gained something too. I just didn't know exactly what. After a day of pondering of all this, I was given permission to pause. I felt the Spirit, saying, "just stop for a minute," it was a deep unction within me to push pause on any spiritual influences outside of this one thing: devotion. I heard pause from church for a minute, enjoy this season, stop performing, stop striving. Spend time with your family and with Me. That's it.
The power is not actually in the pause, the power is in obedience to Christ.
At the time I had told two different people I would praise dance with them. I'm a woman of my word, even to a fault sometimes. I delayed obedience to this unction of the Spirit to complete these two praise dances and then...I stopped. Like I said in my previous post, I was spending time with family, including Kingdom family outside of church. However during this time, the main attraction was of course Jesus Himself. I knew He was positioning me. That's why, no matter who you think you are, when God tells you to push pause, you push pause brothers and sisters. No matter who gets offended, misunderstands, or turns their back on you.
There is only one place you NEED to be
The True Vine
15 “I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser. 2 Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit He [a]takes away; and every branch that bears fruit He prunes, that it may bear more fruit. 3 You are already clean because of the word which I have spoken to you. 4 Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me.
5 “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing. 6 If anyone does not abide in Me,he is cast out as a branch and is withered; and they gather them and throw them into the fire, and they are burned. 7 If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you,you[b] will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you. 8 By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit; so you will be My disciples." - Yeshua
John 15 (NKJV)
It's amazing how Christians apply certain concepts we hear in church to our lives, but we don't know what Jesus actually said. For example, church leaders say " you need to be planted at a church." The intention behind the concept is based on good intentions, however, Jesus never said that. He said we needed to be connected to Him. Abide. There are many people committed to a church building that are not committed to Christ in their daily decisions. They are not connected to the Vine. Commitment to attendance is no good if that commitment is not producing an abiding in Christ that leads to deepening roots in Christ; growth. Remember Ephesians 4, church government is designed to cultivate your relationship with Christ not grow the business of church. I don't want to receive a text message every time I miss a church event. I want to receive a text message that makes sure I sought out the secret place that day. That's the kind of accountability that produces abiding believers who walk in consecration and change their world.
I don't want to go off on a rant about religion here. Although, I just might. There are too many church-goers who become fascinated by believers who live a life of consecration, actually love people, and make hard decisions to honor Christ and others behind closed doors. This fascination, is the fruit of dysfunction in the body of Christ. People supplement their lack of authentic Christ-centered devotion by making sure others see them as devoted, kind of like the Pharisees:
“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which indeed appear beautiful outwardly, but inside are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness." - Yeshua (Matthew 23:27)
I purposefully want to make a distinction between church-goers and believers. They are not the same. Abiding in Jesus is much more than attending church. I would even dare say modern "church" is a distraction from the family Jesus sought to create. Assembling yourself with other believers is a beautiful thing that adds incredible stability, accountability, and joy. Spiritual authority in your life is most beneficial and you will miss out on a lot without it. However, what is most important, is to cultivate a close enough relationship with Jesus, so that you hear His voice clearly. Especially if you are a leader of any kind including of a household. And sometimes, the seeking to hear His voice, requires you to silence a few others for a season.
But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you.
A couple of months ago, at a monthly gathering called Carolina Revival, I had an amazing face to face encounter with Yeshua that has transformed me. I want to share more about what Christ did for me, than about that revival or place I went. The atmosphere of that revival was a catalyst but Christ did the work.
While at this revival Friday night, standing in the back by the door (standing room only), I was invited to soar above the whole world with my Father and the next day, my Savior cleansed me from the doubt and unbelief that still lingered within me. Somehow in the midst of all of that, I (finally) fully sat down with my King, Bridegroom, Savior, and Defender in THIS life, seeing as I was already seated, in the spirit, in Heaven. Immediately, I felt an inner contentment and rest I hadn’t in so long. I’m not talking about “getting wrecked” or even crying or laughing uncontrollably. I literally just stood there, surrendering and Jesus transformed me.
What Does "Seated" Mean?
You just have to experience it. 🤷🏽♀️ I can tell you it was one of those face to face encounters with the goodness of God. Our Abba is not concerned about our performance, He just wants our hearts. He desires to be with us. Something changes when you actually have an encounter that causes you to become aware of and agree with "on earth as it is in Heaven." I mean for real. It's hard to describe, but once you experience it, you'll know 😁 and so will those around you. The peace and joy of Christ surrounds you and you be like...(psst, see picture below) continuously, not just during that service. I mean it lasts and lasts. Boom! You've been transformed my friend!
I've seen with my own eyes how, when you get into the right atmosphere, where God's presence and glory is so thick, transformation takes place from within, no one needs to lay a hand on you.
Prophesy can be great, but I've often seen it misused; preaching is necessary but not when it's laced with personal agenda. I've seen 100s of alter calls and praying, but no change. Unintentionally, this causes some leaders to demand more of people because they either are unaware of or not sure how to take you deeper into the Glory of God - and it’s this glory that brings the change. Not man's ability.
For me, I was catapulted into freedom at Carolina Revival in SC. I've also experienced breakthrough at other times and places but this was different. What probably would have taken much longer, was expedited. I believe, this is due to of the measure of God's presence in that place. Ironically, it actually has nothing to do with that place, it's all about the right focus. When you gather with believers that are not concerned with how many humans are present, but if that beautiful One is present, lots of exciting things happen! Don't get me wrong, it requires an appropriate response. You can't just show up and expect the "magic" to work. It requires your surrender, your "yes".
I am grateful for my natural and Kingdom family. During this pause, I experienced wonderful fellowships over dinner or coffee. Yeshua was right there with us!! No worship band, or celebrity speakers, or all the bells and whistles, just good old fashion Acts fellowship. I have gotten to see myself, the good and the bad. I'm growing and He is not done with me. Like today while I was reflecting on so much this year, I literally saw in the spirit God laughing at what I considered to be my shameful shortcomings. He inspired me to be the same way, with all that is scary in this world, with those who let you down, etc.. Jesus, is laughing at all of it! Not in a happy kind of way, but in a "this is such a little speck, so why fret" kind of way.
I don't know about next week, I just know that today I want to pursue Him as He is pursuing me. ❤️ Sometimes it takes stepping away from something to appropriately see it for what it is.
If I could share one message it would be this: Jesus has made Himself responsible for YOU. By "you" I mean those of us who walk in Covenant relationship with Yeshua the Messiah. Baptized by water and spirit, He now abides in you and you abide in Him. Once we become children of God it is no longer about our willpower or ability. IT IS NO LONGER ABOUT OUR PERFORMANCE BUT RATHER, OUR INHERITANCE.
Love you, my friends!
Often in Liturgical Dance you find that you use a plethora of dance disciplines. However, I would say the foundation of any dance is ballet and African Dance. So for the past month and for the rest of December I will be taking Ballet Classes twice a week!
I am loving the Ballet Series at The UP Factory here where I live. Our instructor Natasha is amazing! Ballet strengthens you arms, legs, and core. Even muscles in your foot are used extensively (see video at the end).
My point in mentioning this is, I often find in the Liturgical Dance Community that there is a lack of pursuit of excellence. Many settle for inferior expressions of dance out of fear of failure or maybe just outright laziness. I wish to share my passion for worship and dance with as many people as possible. I now have a ministry called HaRuach Worship.
The purpose of this ministry is to help others come into a more intimate and authentic relationship with Yeshua, our King, and Bridegroom. So many people desire peace, love, and a sense of purpose. They can find all those things in Yeshua, but they hardly ever find it correctly in church. There is a lifestyle in Christ where you will rise from glory to glory, guaranteed, but if you settle for warming a pew every Sunday you will miss this.
Blessings, Health, and Peace!
Let’s face it, kinky and curly hair is not easy to maintain. It's what would be called “high maintenance.” I know that team natural is great at encouraging people that it can be done, and they aren’t wrong! It can be done and it’s worth the work that it requires. However, that being said, natural hair is not for the lazy.
So many beautiful brown dolls want long hair. I was that girl too. I struggled with my kinky curly hair as a child and therefore I got a relaxer. Then after getting a relaxer I soon realized that long hair wasn’t going to be easy either way. I told myself it was because maybe my hair just doesn’t grow like everyone else’s but then I started to learn about women who had relaxed here but very long and healthy hair. I soon started a healthy relaxed hair journey. Waiting 16 weeks or longer to get my relaxers. And then it hit me, why am I doing this? If you’ve ever gone on a relaxed healthy hair journey you know exactly what I mean. You do a bunch a braid outs, you don’t really get to straighten your hair ever, so why not just be natural? I can just be natural, forget the relaxers and rock my curly hair and since I’m not putting chemicals in my hair, if I so choose, I can flatiron my hair. Unlike relaxes hair, 100 % natural hair, straightened, is full, shiny and just BEAU-TI-FUL.
It is my goal to teach people how to have healthy long hair. All I can offer is my experiences over my lifetime and in the 7 years that I’ve been natural. I also want to be as transparent and down to earth as possible. I understand why some people might market themselves in such a way to grow their YouTube channels. I’m not knocking that. I totally understand. However there needs to be a voice who can tell you if it’s genetic, that it’s genetic, and not make people believe that if they use the products you use, or do the things that you do that they’re also going to have long locks like her. Through fitness, healthy living and lifestyle, at the core of everything I do is to make a woman feel beautiful in her own skin.
2019 is right around the corner. Everyone is going to be having goals and benchmarks that they want to achieve in the new year. As they always say, new year, new you. But it’s not enough to have goals and even the most motivated people sometimes need someone along the ride with them. I will be that girlfriend or BFF that you need to help you achieve your goals. I have a lot more announcements coming before and in 2019. Please visit the blog, my YouTube channel, Virtuousdezi, and my Instagram at @Virtuousdezi for more information, content and most importantly inspiration!! 💕
Desiree Cummings is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Dancer, Fitness Enthusiasts, Foodie and Vlogger.